Haters are gonna hate! With that said, it can be difficult to deal with negative comments.
Whether they’re on a blog post you have written, part of a social media discussion, or said during a dinner conversation, negative comments can be hurtful.
Rather than silently steam over the hurtful comments or getting angry and lashing out at the person, you may want to try these five tips first.
5 Ways To Deal With Haters
Decide not to engage in an argument with the person. This decision is for your own wellbeing. Although your defenses may be up and you may feel like raising your voice and telling them off, try to stay calm and objective. Think about all the energy that will be drained during this argument and the reality is, at the end of it their opinion will more than likely be the same.
Be open to hearing them out but be clear that there is zero tolerance for destructive comments and disrespect.
This is my favorite. Selective hearing is one of the greatest gifts we have as human beings. Simply ignore them. Put the comment into perspective by asking yourself if it’s true, and if it isn’t, then it’s easy to shrug it off and ignore. If this comment happens on social media, use the power of the delete button to eliminate this negativity once and for all.
You can respond to the negative comments in a mature way that is confident and constructive, especially with regards to mean-spirited comments meant to hurt you. By responding with confidence, you’re showing that you’re in control of yourself and will not tolerate abuse from anyone.
Talk It Out
If the comments are happening in person, in real life, or from someone you know, you can take the opportunity to talk to the person.
Sometimes comments and remarks, while negative, can be misunderstood. By approaching the person with an open mind and attitude of wanting to learn more from them about why they said what they did, you are offering them an opportunity to explain themselves. It’s also an opportunity for you to tell them what the impact of their comment was on you. This will prevent resentment and improve the relationship.
Talk to a Friend
Sometimes talking to a friend about the situation can be a useful way to vent your hurt and anger and to get someone else’s input on the situation. This also gives you space and time away from the comment, and talking it over with a friend can help you see things more clearly.
Some people will argue that negative comments can be helpful.
You may agree or disagree with this. The important thing is that you give yourself some space and time to think before you respond to any negative comment. This will provide you with the opportunity to see things clearly, determine if the comments are important enough to warrant a response from you, or to put one of the above tips to use.