We’ve all experienced negative people in our life. Those people who echo the negative voice you’re desperately trying to drown out.
Even though they may have the best of intentions, know that you become the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. Take a quick survey of those people, how would you describe them? Are they people who lift you up or drag you down? We all have that friend, family member, or co-worker who just loves to hear themselves complain and never does anything about it. Or, a good friend who gossips about others and stirs up drama in your circle of friends. What is the impact of their energy on you?
These people are what I often refer to as energy vampires. Destructive energy and depressing drama follow them everywhere much like a dark cloud over their heads. Energy is contagious, so if you’re not careful, they can pull you into their negativity. The old saying “misery loves company” is so very true.
If you find yourself caught up in negative thoughts and relationships, it will create obstacles in creating the life you want.
3 Ways To Deal With Negative People
There are many strategies you can use to deal with the negative people in your life. Here are three tips you can put to use right away:
You can set limits and distance yourself from the negative person.
You cannot control the negative behavior, but you can control whether or not you engage and accept that negativity into your thinking and feeling. You can limit the amount of time you spend with them.
You can also begin to emotionally detach from the conversation which can be very helpful in determining just how much of their negativity affects you.
It doesn’t take much time to recognize a chronic complainer. These are the people who are constantly complaining about the same things but never taking actions to improve the situations. Listening to this negativity can drain you of your energy.
By consistently listening and engaging we are enabling them and draining our resources on a person addicted to drama and negativity. Make the decision to limit the amount of time and energy you give these types of people. If you find yourself in a state of complaint shifting to an attitude of gratitude will often diminish any dissatisfaction you have in any area of life.
Be Aware, But Don’t Over-Analyze
One of my favorite sayings is “Not my monkeys, not my circus.” Negative people sometimes behave irrationally. Trying to make sense of their actions or complaints is a waste of time and energy. Be committed to listening but don’t be attached to what is said or fixing it.
We can’t control another person’s experience of life.
The only thing we are responsible for is maintaining our own happiness and well-being. Deciding to keep the negative people at arm’s length from you, avoiding them when you can, and walking away from negative conversations and behavior will help you to be positive.
You cannot fix anyone and as soon as you stop trying the attraction will dwindle. Negative people want your time and attention and the moment they aren’t getting they will move on to someone new.